Who’s on your A team?
Who do you have to hold your hand, believe in you, hold you steady when you slip into moments of self doubt, push you, challenge you, tell you when you are off course, clear the path for you and advocate for you in the right circles?
Our career success has as much to do with the relationships we create as it does with doing great work.
We need other people in our lives if we want to do our best work, to sharpen us, challenge us, help us to see the world in different ways, spark our creativity and innovation and to celebrate the wins.
I have noticed the highly successful leaders I have worked with all have strong networks and relationships that underpin their professional success.
Therese is a great example of this. She is an in-demand senior executive who, within weeks of arriving back in Australia after working in the US for 10 years, assembled her A Team to support her transition, get the word out about the type of work she is looking for and to advocate for her.
This A Team is made up of long time friends and colleagues as well a collection of powerful new connections and partnerships with people who helped her to fast track the process. And fast tracked she did – with a new job offer.
It’s all about relationships.
Too often when we get busy, it is our relationships that suffer. I understand… because I have fallen into this trap too. We prioritise “getting the job done” over building and nurturing relationships. But the time we invest in our relationships will always pay dividends down the track.
And ladies… lets face it, we are hardwired to connect and collaborate. It’s time we reconnected with this super power and put it to good use as we step into having a greater influence at the leadership table.
Who is on your A Team?
Todd Henry from the Accidental Creative Podcast has identified 3 key types of relationships we all need to nurture.
These are the people who are willing to hold up a mirror for you and to tell you the things you don’t want to hear… but need to hear! They will challenge you, push you beyond your comfort zone and expect even more from you than you expect from yourself.
Who do you have in your network who will speak the truth, provide honest feedback because they are genuinely invested in you and want to see you succeed?
My challenge to you today is to find someone who can be your mirror and ask them;
“What’s something that I don’t see and you think could be holding me back.”
You might be surprised by what you find out. It might be a little painful. And it will always be valuable if you choose to listen.
We all need an inner circle of like-minded confidantes with who we can hang out, have inspiring conversations, bounce ideas around. They lift us up when we are down and dance and sing with us when we achieve great things.
I love my inner circle.
I have a collection of proactive, inspiring, beautifully soulful women in my life who have undoubtedly contributed to many of my proudest achievements and, without them, many of these achievements would feel somewhat hollow. These women have been my sounding board, they have pushed me, held me accountable and most importantly shared a glass or two of bubbles along the way.
These are people who have achieved what you want to achieve. They may be just a few steps ahead or they may be people who have already scaled the mountain you want to climb. They will share with you the shortcuts, guide you on what steps to take and steer you away from the pitfalls that you are not yet able to see.
Over time these people will likely clear the way and open doors for you; advocate for you and shine a light on opportunities that you may not have noticed.
And, most importantly, all relationships are two-way.
As your career progresses think about who you can bring along with you. When you go beyond yourself and help others, it opens you up to new pathways of passion, knowledge and self understanding.
Who can you be a mirror or guide for?